When I got engaged I started searching for the perfect music.  Music is so important to me I knew I had to find just the right song to say what I wanted said.  It couldn't be just any sappy love song.  It had say what I felt.  It had to be true to us.  It had to be a song that I could listen to 50 years later and still bring back the emotions that I felt.

Darling you have set me free

Always give you what you need

and what you deserve

All the joy and all this love

I know that it is from above

And now together there's enough to fill this world

'Cause you are the love of my life

You are the love of my life

And now we're man and wife

When I met my hubby he wasn't supposed to be the one.  He was supposed to be the one that helped me feel better.  He was a nice guy that my mom introduced me to.  He was safe.  It took me six months to fall in love.    And in that six months what I came to realize was that he was everything I needed, nothing I expected.  Yes, he was safe.  Because he was solid.  Yes, sometimes predictable.  Because you could count on him.  He was the rock I was looking for.

And now i'm standing next to you

And darling I will see you through the rest of our lives

With you beside me I have won

I'm glad i've waited for so long

There is no doubt that you are the one

for me

You are the love of my life

You are the love of my life

When I first heard "We Are Man & Wife" by Michelle Featherstone I wept.  I wept because it felt like she pulled the words straight from my brain and put them to music.  I wept because I HAD waited for so long.  Waited for the person that would stick.  Someone I could count on to always try to not let me down (let's face it we all fail the one's we love sometimes).  I needed someone who would see through the facade to the real stuff inside.  This song for me said everything I wanted, needed to say to my hubby in a way I couldn't convey.

There'll be things(we will bring)

Everything is going to be fine

Now you're in my life

So I give you heart and soul

It's yours to take wherever you go

Through the years you'll always know it's yours to keep

God has blessed this sacred vow

Angels line above and look down

See the two of us, we found the perfect love

You are the love of my life

You are the love of my life

You are the love of my life

Yeah, you are the love of my life

Now we're man and wife

I don't believe in love at first sight.  I don't believe in one person that is your end all, be all.  What I do believe in (thank you Mom and Dad for modeling this) is happily ever after with your best friend.  I believe in being with someone who chooses you everyday and you choose them.  I believe in someone who will fight with you, stand with you and hold you up if you need that.  I married that.

(Because I'm the awesomest wife ever I COMPLETELY forgot to schedule my anniversary post.  So here it is today, a day late.  LAME.  But hey!  It's here!)

Today is my second wedding anniversary.  In some ways it has absolutely flown by.  I can't believe it has already been two years!  In other ways it seems a lot longer.  We've moved three times, changed jobs twice, gotten laid off twice, been separated by job training for three months and survived terrible coworkers and crazy bosses.  And here we are starting a new adventure in our life, waiting for the arrival of our son.


He is my best friend.  The first person I want to talk to when things go bad.  The first person I want to celebrate with when things go good.  He's my sounding board and my soft place to land.  He's calm when I'm wound up and always willing to go to bat for me.  He is always consistent and reliable and I know I can depend on him.


Happy anniversary my love!  I love you so much and I'm looking forward to the next 20 years!

Backstory:

I knew I would be gone for dinner tonight. So being the VERY GOOD wifey I am I got up early and put together crockpot lasagna for the hubby. It was all ready to go. All he had to do was add a little cheese.

Phone Conversation with Hubby, Mid-Day:

Me: So dinner is ready for you. All you have to do is add the cheese. On the bottom shelf of the fridge there is a ziploc bag full of grated mozz cheese. About 10 minutes before you are ready to eat, turn off the crockpot, add the cheese, put the lid back on and let it sit for 10 minutes.

Hubby: You made dinner? Cool. Thanks. What do I do?

Me: Okay, so, on the bottom shelf of the fridge there is a ziploc bag full of grated mozz cheese. About 10 minutes before you are ready to eat, turn off the crockpot, add the cheese, put the lid back on and let it sit for 10 minutes. Then eat.

Hubby: So just add the cheese? And I'm done?

Me: Yes. The grated cheese. Just put it on top and let it sit for 10 minutes.

Hubby: Okay, got it.

Three Hours Later, the phone rings:

Hubby: Hey babe, what cheese was I supposed to use again?

Me: The grated cheese.

Hubby: Oh. Not the block of cheese?

Me: BLOCK OF CHEESE? What do you mean BLOCK OF CHEESE? The GRATED cheese. On the bottom shelf of the fridge.

Hubby: Oh. I see it. Opps. I thought you said the block of cheese.

Me: What the heck did you do with the block of cheese? Just dump it on top?

Hubby: Um, yea.

Me: What did you expect to happen exactly? Melt the whole thing?

Hubby: Well, I thought it might not but I couldn't remember what you said! I just figured it would take a really long time to melt!

Me: This is why you should LISTEN.

Hubby: Yea, I know.

This made my day. I laughed my flat butt off when I hung up the phone. Only my hubby.

UPDATE: He ended up pulling out the BLOCK of cheese and using the shredded cheese. So now I have a half-melted, tomato sauce covered half block of mozz cheese. AWESOME.

Ah, married life. The joining of two hearts and minds into one. And the joining of two people's stuff, baggage, attitudes, blah, blah, blah. When you have two people that have two very different opinions of how they should behave and what they should do, level of cleanliness, what is appropriate behavior, etc. . .well, it can get ugly. I felt that when I was getting married I had a very realistic idea of how things should be considering I have many friends and a sister that are married and they have all been very vocal about marriage and what is true and what is not. So I felt somewhat prepared to deal with the fact that we are two very different people with different ideas on how to deal with things. What I WASN'T prepared for was the fact that there is NO WHERE TO GO! That's right. I'm stuck. Having never lived together before we haven't had to experience this. But we are now. And my friends, this two bedroom at times feels like a very small square box. So the lessons in married life continue. Next week's lesson. . .I'm sure it will be interesting.